Have you ever felt your heart pounding, your stomach hurting, or your breath getting faster? That's what anger can do to our body. Not long ago, small bumps appeared all over my face. I went to a Korean medicine doctor, and he asked me in a kind voice, "How have you been lately?" As I talked to him, I realized there were many things at school that had made me feel frustrated and upset — things I hadn't even noticed before. He told me, "Try to keep your heart calm, and learn to recognize your anger and let it out in a healthy way." That made me think. What is anger? What should I do when I feel angry? So I made my very own Mind Toolbox — three tools I can use whenever anger feels too heavy to carry.

Tool 1 — Think of an "Emotion Iceberg." Anger rarely comes alone. What we see on the surface is anger, but underneath, there is always a deeper feeling hiding. One day, a friend accidentally bumped my shoulder in the lunch line. I got really angry — but why? It didn't even hurt, and it was just an accident. When I thought more carefully, I realized that during first period, my friends had been talking and laughing together without me. That feeling of being left out had turned into anger. Finding the real reason is like magic — it makes the anger shrink.

Tool 2 — Try to See It from Another Person's View. Look at this picture. Do you see a person, or do you see a vase? The same picture can look different depending on who is looking. People who get angry a lot often think, "I am right, and you are wrong." When someone acts differently from what we expect, we say, "Why would they do that?!" But from their point of view, what they did made perfect sense. So next time, try saying this to yourself: "That could happen." You don't need to be angry if you're right. And if you're wrong, you don't have the right to be angry either. Just one sentence — and your whole day can change.

Tool 3 — Breathing. When you're angry, take a slow, deep breath and say to yourself, "I notice that I am angry right now." The moment you notice it, you've already won half the battle. When you separate yourself from the anger, the emotion slowly loses its power. My favorite way to breathe is to fill a plastic bottle with water and blow through a straw. Bubble, bubble, bubble — I love that sound. It always makes me feel calm.

So next time you feel angry, first notice it — "I am angry right now." Then open your Mind Toolbox: Think of the Emotion Iceberg, See it from Another Person's View, Breathe. Remember — bad feelings don't last forever. Emotions are not something we hold in. They are something we let go of, in a healthy way. If we learn to handle our anger, there will be fewer fights and fewer hurt feelings in the world. And together, we can make our world a little bit warmer and kinder.​